The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World

The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing WorldWherever you have friends that s your country, and wherever you receive love, that s your home Tibetan ProverbTwo Nobel Peace laureates meet for a week in Dharamsala, India and engage in a spiritual dialogue and these talks will become the basis for a book Sounds a bit lofty and just a smidge dull except that the two men at the heart of these discussions are his Holiness the Dalai Lama, he of the beatific smile, and the Honorable Archbishop Desmond Tutu, himself a bit mischievous The result of these far ranging discussions is this book filled with insights and laughter in equal measure and I was filled with joy just listening to it.Structured on the Eight Pillars of Joy perspective, humility, humor, acceptance, forgiveness, gratitude, compassion and generosity these principles provide the basis for finding joy in every moment and in every encounter And while these precepts seem simple enough, how hard is it for all of us to live with these thoughts top of mind every day Certainly not I when the fifth driver of the day cuts me off, but this is why I listen to books like this, so that I can keep drumming the message into my head All issues big and small can be overcome with a modicum of compassion, reconciliation and perspective.What resonated most and why I m most grateful to have listened to this book is the perspective the Dalai Lama brought to his own predicament How the tragedy of his exile when seen from a different angle brought the plight of the Tibetan people and the teachings of Buddhism to a larger audience that might not have been cast in the limelight had he remained in Lhasa In his own words There are different aspects to any event For example, we lost our own country and became refugees, but that same experience gave us new opportunities to see things For me personally, I had opportunities to meet with different people, different spiritual practitioners, like you, and also scientists This new opportunity arrived because I became a refugee If I remained in the Potala in Lhasa, I would have stayed in what has often been described as a golden cage the Lama, holy Dalai Lama He was now sitting up stiffly as he once had to when he was the cloistered spiritual head of the Forbidden Kingdom So, personally, I prefer the last five decades of refugee life It s useful, opportunity to learn, to experience life Therefore, if you look from one angle, you feel, oh how bad, how sad But if you look from another angle at that same tragedy, that same event, you see that it gives me new opportunities I think this is the most difficult of the concepts to accept and adopt from this book, but it can be the most significant in terms of how we view the misfortunes in our own lives It has certainly changed the way I am viewing my own tragedies How can these two men who ve endured such adversity and losses still find their way to joy This is the ultimate lesson in how to make lemonade out of lemons.I can t say I ll become a better person overnight and I won t guarantee that if you cut me off in traffic I won t yell a few expletives yes, I have been known to use colorful language in the privacy of my car , but I have been thinking about this book for two months since listening to it and I do find myself squashing of the negative feelings and replacing them with kind and productive thoughts And while I still despair some days at the state of our world, I focus instead on what I can do in my little corner How can I be there for my family How do I support my friends What charities can I lend my talents to that will make a difference in my neighbors lives It s not a perfect book, it does get a bit repetitive in parts and the author moderator injects himself into the narrative mansplaining sometimes, but overall these are small criticisms in the overall message And who is going to dock two holy men stars Who needs that kind of bad karma So take a step back, practice humility, laugh often, accept things as they are, forgive when necessary, be grateful, be kind and help others And if you fail at one or any of these today, remember that every day is an opportunity to begin again I will step off the soapbox now, I m sure someone needs the wood. The Book of Joy started out in an ordinary enough manner It was well written, interesting, at times humorous, and full of truth But then right book, right time, it guided me to closure on something I d been struggling with for a decade This is literally a life changing book for me.Even if you don t experience an epiphany like me, this book still has the potential to make your life better You can already be happy and take something from this You don t have to be Christian or Buddhist for it to be effective either The guidance within applies perfectly well to the secular life I received a complimentary copy of this book via a Goodreads giveaway Many thanks to all involved in providing me with this opportunity. Two Great Spiritual Masters Share Their Own Hard Won Wisdom About Living With Joy Even In The Face Of Adversity The Occasion Was A Big Birthday And It Inspired Two Close Friends To Get Together In Dharamsala For A Talk About Something Very Important To Them The Friends Were His Holiness The Dalai Lama And Archbishop Desmond Tutu The Subject Was Joy Both Winners Of The Nobel Prize, Both Great Spiritual Masters And Moral Leaders Of Our Time, They Are Also Known For Being Among The Most Infectiously Happy People On The PlanetFrom The Beginning The Book Was Envisioned As A Three Layer Birthday Cake Their Own Stories And Teachings About Joy, The Most Recent Findings In The Science Of Deep Happiness, And The Daily Practices That Anchor Their Own Emotional And Spiritual Lives Both The Dalai Lama And Archbishop Tutu Have Been Tested By Great Personal And National Adversity, And Here They Share Their Personal Stories Of Struggle And Renewal Now That They Are Both In Their Eighties, They Especially Want To Spread The Core Message That To Have Joy Yourself, You Must Bring Joy To OthersMost Of All, During That Landmark Week In Dharamsala, They Demonstrated By Their Own Exuberance, Compassion, And Humor How Joy Can Be Transformed From A Fleeting Emotion Into An Enduring Way Of Life The Book of Joy Lasting Happiness in a Changing World provides countless insight from Archbishop Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama, two spiritual masters and moral leaders, as the book synopsis appropriately characterizes them These two well known and highly respected men are friends, and their interaction throughout the book had a playful tone while still showing great admiration and respect for one another I enjoyed the book overall as a whole, yet found the greatest enjoyment and takeaways in the chapters focused on each of the 8 Pillars of Joy perspective, humility, humor, acceptance, forgiveness, gratitude, compassion, and generosity.There were so many interesting points, perspectives, and stories shared throughout the book that ultimately focus on how to reframe one s mindset, and reconsider situations This is the type of book you can revisit often, learning something new each time Different sections of the book will likely resonate each time too, depending on what s going on in your life at the moment For me in particular, this time around it was Acceptance While there is a plethora of great information to be found and of course, ultimately implemented in this wonderful read, The Book of Joy, I leave you with the following few favoritesWe are meant to live in joy, the Archbishop explained This does not mean that life will be easy or painless It means that we can turn our faces to the wind and accept that this is the storm we must pass through We cannot succeed by denying what exists The acceptance of reality is the only place from which change can begin The two leaders had told us over the course of the week that there is no joy without sorrow, that in fact it is the pain, the suffering that allows us to experience and appreciate the joy Indeed, the we turn toward the suffering, our own and others, the we can turn toward the joy We accept them both, turning the volume of life up, or we turn our backs on life itself, becoming deaf to its music They had also told us and demonstrated that true joy is a way of being, not a fleeting emotion What they had cultivated in their long lives was that enduring trait of joyfulness They had warned us that we cannot pursue joy as an end in itself, or we will miss the bus Joy comes, rather, from daily thoughts, feelings, and actions And they had told us repeatedly the action that gets us on the bus bringing joy to others. Powerful, exquisite, full of love and friendship between Archbishop Tutu and the Dalai Lama I listened to this on audio incredible to hear the different voices narrators were actors, very good actors and quotes from these two enlightened friends I will refer back to with frequency the helpful practice chapters at the end on meditation thought changes This is the premier book of joy I ve read thus far Empowering and thought provoking with humor and love for self and others. I expected to like this than I did There is an old writing rule of Show, don t tell and this book, with it s third person narrator describing everything and very much inserted into the thing, is pretty much all tell And there s a lot of repetition The overall message is good but frankly a bit light on content. 4.5I have listened to this book on audible, but as I found so many important messages and useful practices in it, I wanted to have a physical copy as well to reread and mark my favourite passages in It s that kind of book 3 Especially regarding the current situation in the world, but also for years in everyday life, I found myself agreeing we are all in it together We are all human beings looking for happiness and trying to free ourselves from suffering So we should be kind to others and to ourselves.The only thing I found to be a liiittle downer, is that there is often talk of the importance of relationships But only a very little part actually goes deeper into how shy or lonely people can overcome their struggles In a wider sense, they can, of course, by applying the practices of kindness and mindfulness on their everyday life But the fact, that a lot of us still struggle remains the same Then again, that s life, huh Read this book.I so desperately needed to read this book but I didn t know it until tears were running down my face Not from sadness, but from the opportunity it presents Suffering is unavoidable But practicing joy is a choice that we can control when so much is out of our control It s a simple concept but potentially life changing nonetheless The Book of Joy Lasting Happiness in a Changing World is self help in nature with elements of documentary, spiritualism, and world culture It teaches how to practice joy through redirecting our thoughts, showing compassion, choosing gratitude, and by purposefully giving joy to others There is a manual at the end that goes into greater detail instruction for interested readers Highly recommend My favorite quoteThere are going to be frustrations in life The question is not How do I escape It is How can I use this as something positive Oh, they are rascals Impish spirits, the both of them, who giggle and joust and tease their way through this late in life meeting evincing in almost every moment the very joy they ve gathered to discuss.The friendship of these illustrious men, who ve met a mere half dozen times and then only briefly, calls to mind that deep and instantaneous bond so frequently formed by children back when our hearts were filled with trust and our world with potential companions in adventure Clearly kindred spirits, the Dalai Lama has been known to swipe the Archbishop s signature sailing cap right off his head, and Desmond Tutu, in turn, to demand recompense for every compliment he tenders Pay me, he says, extending his arm and rubbing his fingers together The best way to measure a love is to gauge its flexibility to antics of this nature, and you can tell this is, indeed, a magnificent affection It s a pleasure to witness Even on the page it has power enough to produce a string of smilesand resurrect a dream or two.Which is not to say their wisdom is in any way overshadowed, or their keenness underplayed.The occasion is the Dalai Lama s eightieth birthday Archbishop Tutu has flown to India for a visit of several days during which these scamps will settle in as best they can and address, between them, how to introduce joy into life You might imagine this would be a lofty enterprise but it is very much like the friendship sincere and down to earth Though they agree on a lot, their approaches have individual distinctions In the arena of emotion, for example, the Dalai Lama promotes learning how to objectively examine our feelings while the Archbishop is concerned with putting an end to the shame we have over what we feel One is a course of mindfulness, the other of self compassion Their interlocutor, Douglas Abrams, has some difficulty with this development as he places the positions in opposition I did not have that difficulty, finding them complimentary strategies.But I m doing the material a disservice to elevate it in this manner It s not an esoteric exchange These are solid conclusions about grief, compassion, humility, loneliness and despair, extended simply as the product of a lifetime s careful and conscientious thought In fact, one of the principal benefits I drew from my first reading had to do with the news media I ve been having a tough time with the news lately It s not so much the content as it is the way it s presented to me Everything seems tailored to make me anxious to scare me enough to keep me tuning in The Dalai Lama and Archbishop Tutu spent a moment discussing this.The Archbishop introduces the subjectYes, there are many, many things that can depress us But there also are very many things that are fantastic about our world Unfortunately, the media do not report on these because they are not seen as news I think you are right, the Dalai Lama said When bad things happen they become news, and it is easy to feel like our basic human nature is to kill or to rape or to be corrupt Then we can feel that there is not much hope for our future All these things happen, but they are unusual, which is why they become news There are millions and millions of children who are loved by their parents every day Then in school their teachers care for them Okay, maybe there are some bad teachers, but most of them really are kind and caring Then in the hospital, every day millions of people receive immense caring But this is so common that none of it becomes news We take it for granted And they re right The kind acts and fruitful accomplishments that happen every day They re not news because they are the common experience Goodness and productivity are the norm Cruelty and catastrophe are what is deemed exceptional enough to merit airtime This broadened my perspective, and helped me out.The work is filled with insight and numerous, moving personal experiences culled from the lives of both men Rascals they may be, it is still quite easy to see how they ve become two of the most esteemed spiritual figures of our generation.For me, this was less a book than a privilege Highly recommended. Wherever you have friends that s your country, and wherever you receive love, that s your homeDalai Lama XIV, The Book of Joy Lasting Happiness in a Changing WorldWhen two people, both Nobel Peace Laureates, are as world renowned as His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu it takes an event for them to travel In this case, the Dalai Lama s 80th birthday offered them a chance to gather together and discuss their lives, their beliefs and to enjoy each other s company in Dharamsala, India for a week For these two longtime friends, this was an occasion of joy, brought together to discuss the topic of joy I ve seen them for brief moments of time, seen photographs, heard snippets of speeches before, but I had never spent so much time in the company of these two spiritual leaders, so I was expecting a quiet representation of joy, inner joy I wasn t expecting the gentle teasing, their playfulness, the boisterous laughter, and while I expected a high level of respect, I wasn t expecting the overwhelming sense of gratitude and love they had for one another It was very enlightening and moving.This was narrated by the author, Douglas Carlton Abrams, and the narrator for Dalai Lama was Francois Chau, with Desmond Tutu s words were narrated by Peter Francis James Chau and James both seemed to me to do an excellent job of narrating and capturing the voices of both Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama I really enjoyed listening to this, although there was a bit of repetition that seemed to be noticeable, but I d notice it, and then quickly return to paying attention to each spoken word To hear them talk about the years in the past, the trials they ve faced, and their views on these was something that reminded me a lot of a woman who lived two houses away from me when I was growing up In the years before I moved away, I saw her go from a vibrant healthy young mother of four to being wheelchair bound from polio Then her second oldest began having seizures that took too long to diagnose properly and find the right treatment for Not long after that, her husband, a pilot like my father, was cleaning out the yard at their new home they d just moved to, inhaled whatever weed killer toxic chemical and came running into the kitchen Rushed to the hospital, he survived, although he was in the hospital for a while He was cleared to fly again, and died upon reaching altitude on his first flight out The next year, it was only that her oldest, attending Kent State, had been involved in the riots The thing is, I never saw her lose a sense of joy, even in those moments where the world was falling apart, she had this aura yes, this moment in my life really sucks, but it is a moment, only She was always so full of joy Hearing the Dalai Lama speak about his exile, reminded me of her ability to see the things she d gained through her losses, and not just the losses themselvesSo, personally, I prefer the last five decades of refugee life It s useful, opportunity to learn, to experience life Therefore, if you look from one angle, you feel, oh how bad, how sad But if you look from another angle at that same tragedy, that same event, you see that it gives me new opportunitiesDalai Lama XIV, The Book of Joy Lasting Happiness in a Changing WorldThere really are people out there who have endured incredible hardships and cling to joy, and they have a lesson to share with the rest of us If these two men, after all they ve suffered, all they ve endured, are so filled with joy, can they show us the way to find our own joy, to appreciate and increase the joy in our livesWe are fragile creatures, and it is from this weakness, not despite it, that we discover the possibility of true joyDesmond Tutu, The Book of Joy Lasting Happiness in a Changing WorldMaybe lesson sounds too much like school, they have wisdom to share with us, and what a wonderful way to receive it I listened to the audio, so I don t own the book yet but I intend to buy a copy, so I can refer to the meditation practices at the end of the book, and the pictures One of my favourite quotes from this book that covered a multiple of topics from joy, fear, despair, suffering, adversity, loneliness, as well as the Eight Pillars of Joy, surprisingly wasn t from either the Dalai Lama or Archbishop Desmond Tutu, but from Douglas Abrams, the author, himself I think every parent will relate to his thoughtIt probably takes many years of monastic practice to equal the spiritual growth generated by one sleepless night with a sick childDouglas Abrams, The Book of Joy Lasting Happiness in a Changing WorldThe preface The Invitation to Joy speaks of the beginnings of this book, how they wished to give all abirthday gift to all an invitation to joy and happiness , and ends with the followingEvery day is a new opportunity to begin again Every day is your birthday May this book be a blessing for all sentient beings, and for all of God s children including youTenzin Gyatso, His Holiness the Dalai Lama Desmond Tutu, Archbishop Emeritus of South AfricaHappy Birthday

Jetsun Jamphel Ngawang Lobsang Yeshe Tenzin Gyatso born Lhamo D ndrub , the 14th Dalai Lama, is a practicing member of the Gelug School of Tibetan Buddhism and is influential as a Nobel Peace Prize laureate, the world s most famous Buddhist monk, and the leader of the exiled Tibetan government in India.Tenzin Gyatso was the fifth of sixteen children born to a farming family He was proclaimed the

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